The Benefits of Oral Sex

Oral sex is a precious gift to someone who is worthy to receive it. Think about this for a moment. Along with the sexual revolution has come the side effect of sexual peer pressure. It’s important to remember that oral sex at its best is a mutual ‘giving and receiving’. Our sexual gifts are as valuable as any other part of ourselves that we prize. Selecting the right sexual partner to give to, and receiving from the right partner, is as important a decision as choosing anything you place a high value upon. Oral sex has many beautiful qualities that we appreciate more as we mature.

In this era of “natural ingredients”, oral sex is a natural “high”, perhaps even the best of nature’s uplifts. It can energize us and make
us feel more creative afterward. Oral sex is a wonderful form of self-expression, infinitely artistic Oral sex can renew stamina; not deplete it. It can free us from emotional stress and release tension and discomfort that have become lodged in our muscles. Oral sex has so many forms of expression. It is both beautiful and erotic. It is gentle and assertive. It is relaxing and energizing. But most of all, it is a unique connection between two people who want to share a divine pleasure.

What Oral Sex Isn’t
It is equally important in defining oral sex to weed out what doesn’t belong in its repertoire of images. First and foremost, oral sex is not a sin. It didn’t make it to the top 10 commandments, so it must be okay! Besides, why would God have created a clitoris for a woman if it wasn’t supposed to be stimulated? It has no other function than pleasure. Read chapter 2 on “Her Body” for more information on the clitoris.

Oral sex is also not dirty; it is not something to be shamed like leprosy. And it is not unhealthy as long as proper protection is used. In fact, sexual fitness can improve your health, not take away from it. Oral sex is not perverted or unnatural. Oral sex is not to be misused as a weapon. Withholding oral sex to punish a partner is a sign of poor communication and stored-up anger; and it does not give power to the “withholder”. To the other extreme, forcing one’s self sexually on another person is a sign of inadequacy, not power or real strength.

A sexual addiction or compulsion is an escape from love. Oral sex is not a healthy addiction. Oral sex is also not a sport; it is not merely a form of exercise. It is a full body experience, not just mouth to vagina or mouth to penis. To enjoy its many pleasures, oral sex is a journey not just a destination. Oral sex is not love, but is often confused with love.

This article is an excerpt from Pocket Idiot’s Guide to Oral Sex by Dr. Ava Cadell: In her introduction to the book, Dr. Ava writes: “First I’d like to congratulate you for picking up the Pocket Idiot’s Guide to Oral Sex. This book is for busy, adventurous people who want no-holds barred straight-to-the-point information on titillating, erotic and luscious oral sex for men and women.” Visit The Loveology University Bookstore to find a wealth of resources, including e-books and audiobooks, to help you have a richer and more fulfilling sex life.

~ by loveologyu on October 22, 2009.