Sizzling Sex Secret: Sexual Massage

Sexual Massage for Him:

This is not the kind of massage you want your lover to get from a stranger, but it is the kind of massage you want to learn how to give because he will never forget it.

Male Genital Massage: Put plenty of massage oil in your hands and warm it up by rubbing it with both hands, then slowly spread it all over his penis and testicles. Next place one hand onthe shaft of his penis and start stoking it in an up and down motion while the other hand gently encircles his testicles. Do this in slow motion for at least three minutes.

Then rub his penis with both hands as if rubbing a stick to make a fire. This is a sure way to light his fire! Now make both hands go in opposite directions in a corkscrew motion over the penis. One hand twists up while the other hand twists downwards. Do this for at least another three minutes. After that, concentrate on just massaging his penis from the top to the bottom covering the glans (head) and sliding yourhands down to the base with one hand after another in a fluid motion.

Do this for about ten strokes and don’t be surprised if he can’t stand it any longer and has tomake passionate love to you.

Prostate Massage: The prostate is the male version of the female G-spot. Located below the bladder and in front of the rectum, it can provide a surprising amount of pleasure when massaged. Start by caressing the buttock cheeks with a feather stroke using your finger tips. Then use a water base lubricant and gently massage the anus with light circular strokes.

Press on the anal ring with your thumb and ask your lover if he would like you to go deeper. If the answer is no, then just continue to massage around the anus, on the buttock cheeks and inside the thighs. If the answer is yes, then move your forefinger inward gently paying close attention to your lover’s resistance. If he tightens his sphincter muscles, keep your finger in place until your lover relaxes them.

As your finger progresses deeper, search for the prostate by bending your finger in a “come here” gesture an inch to two inside the anus. You should feel a nut-sized spongy area which is his prostate gland. Ask your lover to describe what he’s feeling and if he’s enjoying the experience, move your finger all around his prostate in circular motions.

Sexual Massage for Her: What is good for the goose is most definitely good for the gander especially when it comes to a sexual massage.

Female Genital Massage: On the female genitals, you might want to use a water-based lubricant because if oil gets inside the vagina, it can cause irritation. Put the oil in your hands and rub your hands together before placing them her. Start by focusing on the vulva, which is the outside visible area of the vagina. Then gently rub the massage oil or lube around her vaginal lips all the way down to her anus. Using the pad of your thumb, trace the outline of her anus and then slowly slide your thumb up the landing strip(perineum) from her anus to her vaginal opening.

Two-Lips: Then gently part her outer lips with both of your thumbs and caress them in circular motions for at least two minutes. Next, slide your thumbs up and down her outer lips until they are spread apart, and then do the same with her inner lips. The inner lips are more sensitive than the outer lips so use less pressure. Watch for her body language and for the swelling of her vaginal lips, which is a natural progression when a woman gets sexually aroused.

Clitoral Massage: Gently pull the clitoral hood back from the clitoris to expose it. Then gently slide your thumb and forefinger up and down the sides of the clitoris for about ten strokes. You may feel it growing as it becomes more excited. A clitoris can grow three to four times its normal size when it’s fully engorged. Next massage the head of the clitoris in circular motions using your forefinger or thumb. Don’t be surprised
if she has a body melting, earth shattering orgasm. The clitoris has 8000 nerve fibers and it’s the primary sexual organ for a woman. Most women are capable of having a clitoral orgasm when it is stimulated.

This is an excerpt from The Loveologist Guide to 52 Weeks of Sizzling Sex by Dr. Ava Cadell. Visit The Loveology University Bookstore to find a wealth of resources, including e-books and audiobooks, to help you have a richer and more fulfilling sex life.

~ by Dr. Ava on January 8, 2010.

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