The Appeal of Cyber-sex by Dr. Ava Cadell

“When I examine myself and my methods of thought, I come close to the conclusion that the gift of fantasy has meant more to me than my talent for absorbing positive knowledge.” — Albert Einstein.

He was a man who truly appreciated “fantasy” — a word which conjures up images as unique as the mind which nurtures them.  Fantasies are the single defining element in a multi- billion dollar sex industry.  Fantasies banish fear while promoting expression…They are free, easy, and limitless.  As a result, real life usually pales in comparison.  So are fantasies a good thing?  Do they really have purpose beyond ensuring a more rapid orgasm?

For many, fantasies bridge the gap intimacy issues might have created over the years.  An example might be the phenomenon of finding that at times it’s easier to speak openly to a complete stranger about something troubling or intensely personal than to confess such concerns to a loved one.  Sadly, because of our sensitivity to the reaction of loved ones or perhaps a tendency to allow the distractions of daily life to mask our needs, the person closest to us may never know our deepest secrets or desires.

Yet the undeniable reality of the “unspeakable” continues, and individuals persist in their quest for safe expression of said “dark demons.”  Thus the advent of the Internet in the early 1990’s immediately embraced by a global network of curious souls; the Internet embarked on a skyward climb, fueled by voracious consumers intent on exploring all variety of communication.  On the heels of a dark sexual age steeped in the fear of AIDS and all manner of STD’s, society was looking to express sexually and the Internet was the perfect forum.  Conceivably aided by the anonymous medium, the public’s demand for sexual menus on the Internet was met and continues to expand.

There are the ever-popular “cyber-romance” chat rooms, where those in cyberspace, either as themselves or pretending to be someone else, role-play for the fun of it.  Nutty screen names denote wild personalities and offer revealing character insights.  In all aspects of the cyber-romance scene, parties involved are consenting to be in the same space, with no monetary incentive.  There are also chat rooms where people are looking for “true love”…essentially personal ads.  As with traditional personal ads, there are pros and cons to this scenario.  While it allows people to speak candidly and without fear of recrimination about their most basic needs, it can be – and often is – an elaborate “web” of deceit.  Worse case scenarios have involved children, such as the luring of a child out of state by someone with criminal intent.  One can be entrapped, as there is never any clear indication of who – gender, race, or age – is on the screen.

For the most part, what seems to occur on-line is innocent, even though temperatures often soar due to the explicit written interaction … Read the rest of this article here:

~ by Dr. Ava on February 5, 2010.

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